Miss No Change

I know you can't change anyone. Change must come from within. But consider this.

Miss No Change had always walked to Destination X for years. As a result, she always arrived late. This would not pose a problem if Miss No Change was working alone on her own time. You see, Miss No Change was unfortunately part of a team. And her late arrival caused the other members of her team to pick up her slack in her absence.

There is a solution to this problem, which is a free train ride to Destination X. This free train ride would ensure Miss No Change would arrive on time, at no cost. It was certainly more efficient than walking.

But no. Miss No Change insists on walking because that's the way she had always travelled to Destination X. To take a free train ride would be tantamount to changing her character and upsetting the balance of her otherwise perfect life.

So she resists the free train ride. And her team members continue to pick up her slack. But to her, it is more important for her team members to work harder at her expense than for her to make a simple switch from walking to taking a free train ride.

This is how I look at it. You don't have to change for anyone. But the day your behaviour negatively affects the people around you, is the day you seriously need to ask yourself difficult questions and if necessary, change. 

As the saying goes, the only constant in life is change.