Have you ever loved someone so much that you were willing to do just about anything to see them happy? Like give up everything for them, or die for them, or the worst of all, to let them go.
I only ever loved 2 people like that. And both relationships did not work out, through no fault of my own. So now I am thinking, could it be that they did not reciprocate the level of devotion, sacrifice and love that I was willing to show to them?
Some of my friends are of the view that if they will not sacrifice their happiness for mine, it means that they just did not love me enough. Personally, I can agree with that because I know I am capable of giving (or giving up) everything for someone else's happiness, even if it means compromising my own happiness. But a close friend of mine keeps reminding me that the world is not black and white, it's 50 shades of grey (pun intended) and just because I think in a certain way does not mean that other people think the same way I do.
Assuming for one minute that my friend is right - that they just did not love me enough - what this means is that I was never good enough for anyone to love me to the extent that he will do anything to see me happy. And that is just sad.
when you have to give up EVERYTHING, including yourself so the other party is happy, u just lost yourself. and when you lose who you are, you are no longer the person he fell in love with.
ReplyDeleteyou may think that, 'hey, i gave up this , this , this for you, you better love me enough as i expect you to be..'
it doesnt work that way.
my...i'm feeling so opinionated today...
That's good advice. What you said did cross my mind, just that this friend of mine was so adamant that if he doesn't sacrifice something within his power in order to be with me, then it just means that he didn't love me enough. I tend to disagree but I have doubts...
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