When I ask you for help, I am well aware that I am asking a favour. You are not obliged to help me. So I’d appreciate it if you would just tell it to my face whether you are able to help me or not. If you can, well and good. If you can’t, I won’t hold it against you.
But if you can’t or don’t want to or won’t, TELL ME! Tell me so that I can ask for help from someone else, or figure something out on my own. Don’t give me the impression that you will help me and then make me wait for you while you give me the run around. It is disrespectful. It is shameful.
You think you’re letting me down gently by telling me you can help me, but then giving me 10,000 excuses about how you have to be everywhere else in this world. You think that by doing that, I will get the hint and understand that you really don’t wish to help me.
But you don’t realize that by telling me you’ll help me and then giving me excuses as to why you can’t, you are only delaying the help that I needed, help which I could’ve gotten earlier had you told me in the first place that you can’t help me.
So do me one last favour. The next time I ask you for help, have the guts to tell me to my face that you can’t help me. Not that I’d ask for your help again anyway.
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